tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post6244524008347456682..comments2024-03-13T05:34:24.912-05:00Comments on Divorced at 50: January, the month for divorcesVichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07073379691758001953noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-59083551166347473852012-10-03T16:39:55.905-05:002012-10-03T16:39:55.905-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-20052235450855805722012-08-06T16:08:23.587-05:002012-08-06T16:08:23.587-05:00Lilly, I wanted to take a minute to thank you for ...Lilly, I wanted to take a minute to thank you for all of your work and effort. I requested a binding love spell and received the strengthen our relationship love spell as my free spell and within 3 days Sam was back and home with me and we are finally talking about marriage and kids! I cannot thank you enough for your spell casting services! I have already recommended two friends to you for help Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-49817390776559975952012-08-03T05:24:58.570-05:002012-08-03T05:24:58.570-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-8664673601759351572012-07-30T21:42:15.143-05:002012-07-30T21:42:15.143-05:00Just in case you're wondering (ha!), I stayed....Just in case you're wondering (ha!), I stayed. The woman that I loved so dearly, who inspired me to turn my thoughts of divorce into a plan of action, couldn't wait for the time that I felt it was needed -- to end my marriage as respectfully and honorably as I could.<br /><br />I took my everyone's advice to seek counseling and personal therapy, and my true love took it to mean that IAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-33003262503547371982012-07-13T10:02:10.025-05:002012-07-13T10:02:10.025-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.utruinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-73981862844801650212012-06-11T14:06:27.038-05:002012-06-11T14:06:27.038-05:00I have looked at all of your storys. He left me fo...I have looked at all of your storys. He left me for someone 10 years older then me. He cheated 6 times. 1 was my sister inlaw. He left me 3 times for other women. 1 was my sister inlaw. I took him back everytime. Justt happy he was back. Told myself he really loves me. He just needs to grow up. the 30 years we were together. He didn't work 15 of those. I worked 80 hours for a family of 5. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-13947484855414202382012-05-03T15:07:06.761-05:002012-05-03T15:07:06.761-05:00I can see that not too many people leave comments ...I can see that not too many people leave comments on this site. But what I have read so far is very informative. It all comes down to getting your life together and moving on. Keep your good friends and get rid of the rest. Family can be there for you. Take time for yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-38465127315631976052012-03-26T13:41:04.164-05:002012-03-26T13:41:04.164-05:00Thanks for all of your posts. I too am divorced. ...Thanks for all of your posts. I too am divorced. I loved her very much and have been struggling for two years to let go. In the end, she told me that she only stayed together for the financial convenience and that she hadn’t cared for me for most of the relationship (twelve years). You all know what it is to have your heart ripped out, so I won’t go into the personal devastation that followedBriannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-79454193931404145262012-03-16T16:37:05.937-05:002012-03-16T16:37:05.937-05:00So..... That Guy I agree completely!! I told my h...So..... That Guy I agree completely!! I told my husband I want a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I haven't loved him for god knows how long. I began an affair with a co worker 20 years ago and we are still going strong. I left and he followed. We are taking things slow and who knows where we end up and if we are together. For me I couldn't lie anymore and I am not proud that I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-61045235923260391602012-03-15T06:11:29.604-05:002012-03-15T06:11:29.604-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-7749306475663496322012-03-13T21:55:55.054-05:002012-03-13T21:55:55.054-05:00Thought I was the only one...was married for 24 ye...Thought I was the only one...was married for 24 years to a man I adored. Compromised my goals, my dreams - my chances to have a family, all for the sake of a man who never really loved me. During the divorce process he informed me that he didn't leave earlier in our marriage because I made life easier for him. Financial Security, coupled with my neverending trust and faith in him allowed him Survivornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-51578715822478899252012-02-29T02:34:53.166-05:002012-02-29T02:34:53.166-05:00I am learning it's not how long you have been ...I am learning it's not how long you have been married. I was married 30 years 10 months. Its the disrespect, unwillingness to get help and thinking starting all over again is the best way to go. If you have problems in a current marriage, packing your bags and leaving, all your problems will follow you to the next relationship. You will carry all your luggage on your back for the rest of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-56547988873576421812012-02-20T00:11:53.132-05:002012-02-20T00:11:53.132-05:00After a 40 year relationship (36 of them married) ...After a 40 year relationship (36 of them married) my ex left...at Christmas time (I think his employee-girlfriend finally gave him a ultimatium) and we have never spoken again. It's been 4 years now.<br /><br />Going through my divorce was traumatic for me (I also lost 36 pounds...1 for each year married), but I finally came to terms with my divorce.<br /><br />I absolutely love my "Joyce Pitrone Hawkins--Wrinkles Don't Hurthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03442403404964953001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-75237300861096586982012-02-17T21:12:35.975-05:002012-02-17T21:12:35.975-05:00Just touched back as I have found this blog quite ...Just touched back as I have found this blog quite helpful, in the sense that I don't feel I am alone in my difficulty 'moving on' after the end of my 26 year relationship. <br /><br />I was very interested in reading the comment by That Guy, it is brave of you I think to express this amongst a lot of comments from women, and you may cop criticism. I do believe what you describe is Donnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-58662635699721764012012-02-17T07:55:33.711-05:002012-02-17T07:55:33.711-05:00As That Guy, I just wanted to tell you that it'...As That Guy, I just wanted to tell you that it's not easy on the other side of the equation.<br /><br />There's never enough support, period, for dealing with something this serious and personal. But women -- or whomever gets left behind -- often seem to have the lion's share of any sympathy and support that does exist. Those of us who make the decision to leave can be so very alone.<That Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-84382596259926695752012-01-31T18:30:35.580-05:002012-01-31T18:30:35.580-05:00Anonymous and Ruth: Your husbands are wrong. They ...Anonymous and Ruth: Your husbands are wrong. They choose to behave the way they do because of something that is lacking in them, not in you. One of the previous commentors had the nerve to say that I should have lost my 40lbs. earler - as if a relationship is built on looks, not on love, trust, years of caring and sharing, and mutual respect.<br /><br />Please do not beat up on yourselves, but Vichttp://divorcedat50.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-13307535222793517152012-01-28T14:03:23.128-05:002012-01-28T14:03:23.128-05:00Am in the same boat, husband having an affair, and...Am in the same boat, husband having an affair, and after 30 plus years of marriage, he is leaving me for the other woman, who has a track record for having affairs..how can the odd stolen moments of just 5 months be seen as enough to destroy what we have worked together to build. Feel that I am not good enough and at 56 my life is over, have hack my confidence knocked out of me, and am strugglingRuthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03505912963958690511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-20365427375336723522012-01-28T12:13:16.626-05:002012-01-28T12:13:16.626-05:00After 23 years of marriage at 53 I am getting a di...After 23 years of marriage at 53 I am getting a divorce. My husband has been seeing someone else. I found out on December 31, it was his birthday. I have list 10 pounds, begun drinking heavily. I want to stay married, I know it is dumb. He has had affairs before. He has a secret credit card and pass codes on all his phones. When I try to ask him anything about it he calls me a fucking bitch and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-7304107211884722012-01-25T06:17:46.320-05:002012-01-25T06:17:46.320-05:00I think the concept of moving on is a flawed one, ...I think the concept of moving on is a flawed one, that denies the past. It's more self deception or escapism. After a 35 yr realtionship 28 married, 3 kids, my wife started cheating. She was always one to flirt and attract attention and she wanted one last stab at "more".....<br />I now believe that love is just a mish mash of chemical drives and an exchange of trust. Having been Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-41562340292189013692012-01-24T17:31:44.409-05:002012-01-24T17:31:44.409-05:00Love your blog .I am going through the same right ...Love your blog .I am going through the same right now,after forty three years of marriage,my husband met someone oneline ,has never met her and decided that he was in love with her and can't live without her.His kids have turned against him but he doesn't care. So now he is trying to force me into selling our home ,so now I waiting for his next move.Thanks for letting me vent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-84522584468441714152012-01-24T00:10:19.138-05:002012-01-24T00:10:19.138-05:00Thank you for writing this blog. Divorce, after s...Thank you for writing this blog. Divorce, after such a long marriage, and at our age is devastating. I probably could handle this better at 25 when your whole life is ahead of you. I was married for 18 years and had been with my husband for 21. We've had trouble for the last 5 years and I tried like heck to save us to no avail. This last October, he moved out. I'm trying to cope Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-91475276965359553212012-01-23T22:55:37.331-05:002012-01-23T22:55:37.331-05:00Love your blog. Posted it on my facebook page. C...Love your blog. Posted it on my facebook page. Checkout my FB page and my blog at http://thedivorceddudesclub.blogspot.com/The Divorced Dudes Clubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04641905614296666501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-61653017028748540212012-01-22T15:33:58.037-05:002012-01-22T15:33:58.037-05:00Anonymous: It's interesting that you mentioned...Anonymous: It's interesting that you mentioned my weight loss. During 25 of the 26 years of our marriage, my husband was 50 lbs. overweight. In that last year he lost 30 lbs. I yo-yo'd, going from a size 4 to a size 14.<br /><br />When he left he said, "At least you knew what you were getting. Look how you have changed."<br /><br />I cherish the men I meet who love their wives Vichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13668098318085667188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-3909031635632567742012-01-21T11:42:21.273-05:002012-01-21T11:42:21.273-05:00"due to a drastic loss of appetite, finally l..."due to a drastic loss of appetite, finally lost the 40 lbs. I'd been meaning to lose for the past decade."<br /><br />Hummm, maybe should have gotten around to that sooner. My wife has piled on the pounds, has not had sex in 6 months, and thinks it is OK to let herself go, and wallow in self pity. She says I should just suck it up.<br /><br />Then women wonder why the men bugger Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218136055792380403.post-32618428713607762072012-01-19T20:38:43.951-05:002012-01-19T20:38:43.951-05:00Hi all, thank you for leaving your comments. I am ...Hi all, thank you for leaving your comments. I am both sad, maddened, and hopeful from reading your stories. We all share the same emotions. Those of us of a certain age who were left by mates of long-standing are the only ones who can understand the hurt, betrayal, loss of trust, and fear of starting a new life in our 50s and 60s. We are the walking wounded staring old age and ill health in the Vichttp://divorcedat50.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com