Turning the corner

I did not just turn fifty. With a start I realized that I am staring 60 in the face. Last January I celebrated my 58th birthday. My divorce happened almost 7 years ago! Thankfully, the pain of separation has receded. I still feel pangs, which come at unexpected times. But looking back, I see that I:
  • embarked on a successful career
  • found new friends
  • discovered a sense of who I am and what I want to do when I grow up
  • take pride in my accomplishments
  • can go it alone
For those of you who are just now going through the agony of separation, hang in there. I truly thought my world had come to an end. I feared living in poverty. I feared growing old. I abhorred the thought of living alone. Over the years, all my preconceptions changed, some unwittingly, but most with conscious effort of understanding.

You may not ever be happy in the naive way that you once were. But as you reemerge from the ashes, your contentment will glow with the rich patina of experience, and you will find a deeper satisfaction than you've ever known before.

One quick step to independence is to become financially solvent:

1 comment:

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

Yay, you! I am not divorced, but I felt like my life and my reality shattered when I found out about my husband's addiction -- I didn't know how I could be happy again -- and like you said, I'm not happy in that naive way I thought I once was, but I have a deeper feeling of contentment and a richer life.